"You Starved Me Of Sex" - Female Lecturer congratulates husband on getting a new wife

Ms Ahemen Pretty Child, a lecturer from English and Linguistics department from Benue state University Makurdi  , took to her Facebook social media  account to  congratulate  her  husband,  Ortwer  Joshua,  for  getting married the second  time to  a new  wife while still  legally married to her under  the Nigerian law. 

  The outspoken  decorating expert,  while  throwing a  few shots at her husband in a lengthy  Facebook  post,  said  she would  not  file a  HUGE lawsuit  of BIGAMY against her  husband,  even  though  he  married another and left  without her consent.   

 

 Ahemen, went further accusing him of  mistreating her  during  their marriage and also blamed him for  depriving  her of sex. 

  Remember,  both  couples  started having  marriage  problems  last year  that  everyone  thought they've resolved their differences.  But  unfortunately,  they broke up.

  Read Ahemen Pretty Child's  reaction after her  husband  found  a new  wife. 

Read Ahemen Pretty Child's reaction After the news of his new marriage broke..

"THIS HAS CALLED FOR MY CONCERN TO ADDRESS YOU ALL

Wait, all those consolation messages you guys are sending to me are actually for what???.

I walked a way after five months of all the dramas and saga that took place right here last year when I saw that things won't work out afterwards after making efforts to fix my home. 

Besides, I remember addressing the entire issue that prompt to all that came up here... even though most of you wished it went the way it went and most importantly, that these people didn't turn up for my mother's burial and we all know the Tiv tradition especially that I was still under the said person's roof seeing hell and not feeding well, couple with the fact that I was getting threats and spiritual attacks from all angles to leave my home.

If we wanted to get back with each other after a while, we knew the process of things and what the tradition demands but then, I used my hand to remove all my properties I took in while leaving and I left with my head high and clear mindset that i was totally done already as he too said he was done... and we have since moved on... the court has only refused to break the marriage and asked that we settle out of court which none of us made attempt to settle back home but still addressed back seeking that we can't be together again as our marriage has broken down irretrievably and so we will be glad if the court free us since we had a Registry Marriage and wish to have an official divorce paper to tender openly at any point in time, need may be.

However, I 'm or have been aware that he was moving on to where ever even though he didn't officially inform me or seek my consent. I could have also moved earliar too but as a law abiding citizen and a very sound and highly educated person who understood what I was into, I preferred not to rush atleast for the fact that I shouldn't be in a hurry to make another mistake...and as it is expected in the court of law that, "once you are married under the Registry Act, no one moves until the court dissolves you both else it will be an offence under the act of law called bigamy and we all know the implication that: "Any person who, having a husband or wife living, marries in any case in which such marriage is void by reason of its taking place during the life of such husband or wife, is guilty of a felony and is liable to imprisonment for seven years and shall also be liable to fine." 

...but truly, will you guys be happy if I do that to an already helpless person who doesn't even have a job at the moment and is trying to use  his #3.6 million gratuity, Airforce are to pay him and his #66,000 pension that will be coming in afterwards after willingly resigning from his job this year after serving for 19years (which he is even yet to have at hand), to see how he can redefine his life again to start running around in court trying to plead not guilty or guilty of an offence? 

What will be my gain if he possibly have the opportunity to travel out of this difficult country now that he has the and I go ahead to spoil things for him? No nah... that won't be fair on my side... I'm not a witch and can't remove food from someone's mouth, you know and so, even without an official pronuncement, I personally do not need to fight over spilt milk... I don't know of you but I have given my blessings as an 'X' so-called bad wife that i have been all through...atleast I am free from what could have ended my life in depression, hurt, pains, lack of love and trust I had while there-in. 

I won't even talk of the loneliness, late nights, almost everyday clubbing, achoholic life styles, quarrelsome attitudes, lies, insults, comparisons and threats etc. Let's not deviate from the topic.

We are two full grown adults who decided to walkout despite trying to stay together after all that happened. I didn't leave when you all expected but my reasons for leaving remains tangible and solid and the fact is, you people dont have a clue of what I went through, only me and my family and few friends knows. 

Few months into the marriage, another girl he started secretly dating ( A BSU student) took in for him and was three months pregnant ( when I discovered) and this was before the whole drama, though he was hiding it from me, I also discovered he was into older women and was always running to Abuja to cool his mind and probably get satisfaction of what ever, using the excuse that he was going to school as a student of Uni Abuja that i made him enrolled for a degree when we where almost getting married and I discovered he lied about his qualification earliar in the relationship...(Note: this is not to tarnish his image but to feed you slightly on things you knew not) ...unfortunately, the young BSU girl ( he promised to secretly marry after he returns from his six month course according to him, without knowing that I was in the know of everything, telling her I have been loosing pregnancies), also lost her's as I also lost several pregnancies too and I heard someone still lost one after I left... 

Forget all the set up plan that turned up here... I owe no one apology and have no regret over anything that played out in the last days of that marriage. I wore the shoes... let someone else wear them too... and infact, I'm happy it is thesame person who took the matter over her head, insulting me round all facebook posts, gallavanting and celebrating my failure, sending me insultive messages via inbox and Instagram handle and posting all kinds of rubbish, threatening me that I was going to loose that my so-called husband that he has ended up with. She will taste it too. ( no two ways about it).

However, I will appreciate if you all will stop making suggestions for me, sending me consolation messages or prayers, telling me to drag someone to court. I have moved on one year 3 months ago from the 1 year 7 months marriage of hurt, pains, names calling, lack of care, sex starvation and all sort or what known.

I also want to inform you all that I have moved ahead to sign a conceded grant for a decree of dissolution of marriage and waiting for the official pronouncement to be officially free and single without informing the court that he has remarried cos I have no gain in that, even though, if he was the one, he could have dragged me to the police as usual.

I appreciate your love, concern and care but I also want you guys to know that I'm okay... very very okay!  Infact sound and more healthier than I was two years ago and the decisions some of you are trying to impose on me will only make the couple loose focus of which they also need all our support. 

You people should be happy for people that are happy o.... e no easy to find love for this hard time...especially finding who will match you and what ever you may intend to bring to the table or the hidden plans and agendas behind your choice, you know! Abi dem d tell dog say go chop shit before e d go chop?

As for me, I was done, I'm done and have been done for good. If only I choose to review some records I have on me, insultive messages from his family, him and his cheating attitudes while in the marriage, you all will marvel but I'm not God, he has done wonders already and so I'm peacefully and gladly applauding Him (GOD) ...if i disrupt this great thing he has done, the aim will be defeated.

Read my lips... D-FOR DONE!

Congratulations to the newest couple in town, I celebrate you people o...Aah! I celebrate you with my full chest and my entire family is happy for you too.

PEACE OUT!🙏🙏🙏"

Mr Otwer is now married to Ms Mimi Atongo from Katsina ALA LG, BENUE state.