Lady Reveals That Swedish, People Do Not Feed Their Visitors Meals

Gambian immigrant to Sweden by the name Lovette Jallow has just revealed in a thread a weird tradition by the Swedish people of not offering visitors food and that includes little children, pregnant women or whoever. 

Jallow, recall her experience as an 11year old who was an immigrant that went to visit friends and was not offered dinner when it was time to eat in what is regarded as "cultural difference". She said, I visited a family friend as a new immigrant and when their mother called for dinner,I was trailing behind only for her to warn me sternly not to come and go play with toys, as my friends will come back to me after they finish eating. As an "Autistic child" I obeyed and stayed back. 

Lovette Jallow

According to her, it was strange that her African mum would offer her friends food while their parents couldn't do same for her so she stopped too. Her reveal has started a conversation with a lot of people in the replies sharing their encounters with their swedish and Dutch friends too.

Someone said, inviting you over to have dinner means bringing your meals. I remember been invited to have Tacos🌮 with a friend. We ate happily and returned home. Only for her to send to us our bills to pay.  

Jallow wrote;

"Laughing at twitter finding out that Swedish people will not feed strangers 😂😂 as a kid growing up here we knew to just go home around dinner time. On the flipside my mom would feed Swedish kids though.

Swedes are an antisocial and weird lot. Alot of foul things are just accepted as “normal”. Not feeding your kids friends is one of those things.

I found out the hard way when I came to sweden at age 11. Went to a friends house for the first time playing and their mom calls them for dinner. Mind you when this friend was at my house my mom would dish out some Gambian food for them as well. Which they ate gladly.

As I trailed behind my friend heading for the dinner table, the mom sternly told me I was allowed to wait and play with the toys in my friends room until dinner was done ✅ 😂 let me just say The swedes are not well at all. 

"But as a young Autistic girl I follow rules very well. So the next time that friend came over and it was dinner time… guess what I did? Told her to wait for me until we are done. We cant be feeding you okra soup and your moms wont give me some dry ass meatballs. 

Meatballs

She continued;

In our Gambian home everyone gets fed during lunch/dinner. But I even wrote about this phenomenon in my book because coming from Gambia it was a given. But what a culture shock it was for me. Only immigrants in sweden will share their plates with you".

Here are some shocking replies;

Sonittaa wrote; A ”friend” of mine invited us to her place for tacos and then the next day she sent us the bill… Scandinavians are built different 😭😭😭

Swedes will invite you to their house and ask you to bring your own food💀💀💀

Kashama dupe wrote;

"It is mostly a cultural thing across Europe, they don't feed strangers as it is cultural for Africans with very little to feed anyone who comes through the door..."

Maria wrote;

"My mom would make us hide the strawberries we were eating if she saw the neighbors kids coming up to our house. Scarcity not an issue, lack of generosity yes 🇸🇪"

Mike man wrote;

"Yea, I live in Sweden the last 5 years. I'm from Greece, so a lot of things are different, but I have come to find out that it's not as simple as "those Swedes are cold". Most of it is due to ppl having their routines and not wanting them to be disturbed(and they yours).I still don't like it, but still, consider that feeding other kids means you're disturbing the other family's routines too. It might not sound like a big deal to us, but it is to them(and not all of them, really)"

Deppadbanni;

"First time I was invited to a Swedish birthday party they asked me to pay them for the food, it was such a shock cause I didn’t ask to be invited, but I paid thinking maybe it’s a big meal, I get there and all they had was their nasty soggy smörgåstårta 😭"

MaddieAlyciark;

"As a French au pair, the first time I made food for the kids’ friend, the parents looked so confused and now I get why thanks to this thread. I remember saying “well he’s not gonna stand there and watch them eat” and the parents were like “oh okay” 😂

Suvi jii;

What puzzles me the most is how y'all have SO MUCH FOOD in the house that you can just magically feed a random bunch of teenagers showing up at your door uninvited.

Everyone in the comments: "my mee-maw always fed the whole village 🥰"

Me: where do you ppl get your money from?

Also, I like to spend my time on doing something else than cook all day meals for anyone who would pop by. My kid shows up with a bunch of hungry friends? Cool, make yourselves a sandwich. Just don't expect me to leave and go to a grocery store just to feed all of you".

Andrew the smart:

"I lived in Sweden for many years and a friend told me when he’d go stay with his aunt as a kid, she’d send the receipts for food and groceries back to his mom.

Deej;

"omg this happened to me at my Dutch friend’s house. they told my mom i could stay over for dinner when we had a play date. but once it was dinner time and everyone had a plate, they asked me where the food i packed was. and when i said i didn’t know i was supposed to pack my own food, they gave me an apple. for dinner. while the whole family ate burgers and fries. i was 10 yo and i was so confused lmao. it’s a miracle they didn’t send an invoice for that apple if you’re at a Dutch person’s house and they say “we’re about to have dinner” that basically translates to “you gotta go home”

Shantee ;

Several different cultures came together to agree that it is rude & socially inappropriate. If it is so intimate, send the guests home prior to the meal. It’s not that hard. Many other cultures share meals in order to intentionally SHARE INTIMACY, so the logic doesn’t track".

Asnbaby wrote; 

"As a turkish dutch (turks & moroccans are the biggest immigrant minority’s in the Netherlands) yes they let you wait. My dad once went with some Moroccan friends to a dutch birthday party, turned out it was diner time. They had to wait at the door till they ate

Kt Wrote;

"like many other African culturs, sudanese would rather sleep starving than have a hungry guests/ stranger among them. found this in many Asian culturs too, like india & malaysia. even if they have nothing to offer that night .. they will have to feed you. 

Alyssia;

"Don't count the Mediterraneans, please.

I'm Italian and I live with Spanish people, you're not leaving our house if we've not fed you AT LEAST coffee and cake. And you're certainly not leaving my mum's/grandma's house hungry or with something to bring back home 😂

Honeytahh;

"i swear. im really starting to believe this fucked up culture of not feeding your guest only comes from the ⚪️.

Jjj;

"No, it's Denmark, Norway, Sweden and Finland.

I've never experienced this cultural oddity in the UK. Nothing to do with colour.

With all the replies and testimonies above ,don't expect to eat when you visit a Scandinavian person,you might be offered an apple and your bills sent back to you later😂